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As our story begins your narrator, me, the Ger, is a thirty four year old man raised in a reasonably observant Irish Catholic home. The Ger was confirmed in the Catholic Church and then basically never went to church again. For years he wasn’t very religious at all. At times, he was downright hostile to the idea of spirituality. Then, two and a half years ago, he met a wonderful woman who we’ll call E, and things began to change.

E was raised in a reasonably observant Jewish home. She went to the high holidays, her family often did shabbos dinner, and she often attended synagogue, but she doesn’t keep kosher and her Hebrew is a little rusty. Being Jewish is hugely important to her, and the Ger has now been to his share of joyous Jewish weddings and somber and moving Jewish funerals. At first, when conversion was brought up, he stubbornly refused. He was born an Irish Catholic and by God, that was how he’d die. But things change, and slowly the wonders of the religion and traditions started to affect him and the Ger got to thinking about how powerful it all was the relation to God through a combination of intellectual discourse and spiritual belief. The beauty of the ceremonies and traditions and he started to feel a real calling to be part of all that and to share it with E and be a model of the good Jewish man to he and E’s theoretical children.
So the Ger started thinking about converting. At first he did so half in jest, bringing it up for a laugh to feel out the waters, and then, more and more seriously. He began reading about it on the internet, he began buying books and now, in a couple of days, he has his first appointment with a Rabbi to seriously discuss it, and he is scared to death.

Right now, I don’t know where this is going to go. I think I am going to convert, but I still have reservations. I am still thinking it through. This blog’s name is a play off the well known phrase “nom de guerre” or name of war, i.e. a pseudonym and “ger” a term for a convert to Judaism. I want to use this space to discuss the excitement and concerns I have about conversion, Judaism and Jewish history in a place that is anonymous. For now, I welcome comments, but I’d rather not let on as to my name.  Let’s see how it goes.

7 Comments leave one →
  1. October 19, 2009 6:09 pm

    Interesting blog. I’ll be back!

    • seanv2 permalink*
      October 20, 2009 2:39 pm

      Thanks, I hope you stop by and comment again!

  2. Debbie B. permalink
    November 30, 2009 4:28 am

    So have you given up on the blog, given up on conversion, both, neither, just to busy to write….?

    • seanv2 permalink*
      November 30, 2009 1:58 pm

      Debbie, thanks for writing! I really need to get back to blogging here, I’ve been a slacker.

      Still, the conversion goes on apace, we’re still taking the classes, I am still reading and learning a lot. Its still been a great experience.

  3. Sarah permalink
    September 7, 2012 5:11 pm

    Hi there, I just stumbled upon your blog and I’d love your advice on finding a rabbi for my conversion in DC. I am engaged to a Jewish man and I know that I want to convert; I just need to find the right rabbi to do it. I plan to do a Conservative conversion. My fiance does not know any of the synagogues in DC because we are both from CA (I am here for grad school). Any tips?

    • seanv2 permalink*
      September 7, 2012 5:33 pm

      Hello Sarah,

      Congratulations on your engagement! I would highly recommend you get in touch with Rabbi Rose who runs the group J Discover. His website is here: Not sure if he still supervises conversions, but if he doesn’t he will be able to point you in the right direction. Good Luck!

  4. November 11, 2013 11:22 pm

    Hii, I stumbled across this blog while looking for some material for mine. I just started a blog on tumblr talking about the differences of being Jewish in Jamaica and Jewish in the US. Your perspective is interesting.

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